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Comment on Gift from Klaudea @ Lemon Pie by Carol

Carol — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:50:24 +0000

goooo alienman, i know you can do it. we’re here to support you too.

oh bejeweled…i’m so glad i’ve stayed away from that game for some time. i would be completely unproductive at work. now i want to play when i get home. haha! enabler…

Comment on Gift from Klaudea @ Lemon Pie by Nunu

Nunu — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:40:43 +0000

Fighting!
btw, who is The Man? I don’t really get it?

Comment on Gift from Klaudea @ Lemon Pie by Jen

Jen — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:06:34 +0000

lawl, i personally take credit for urging on this bejeweled blitz attack.

Comment on Gift from Klaudea @ Lemon Pie by Jamilla Camel

Jamilla Camel — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:36:39 +0000

Good luck with the job hunt!! Just keep pluggin’ it’s not easy out there, but you will prevail!

Comment on Do they ever say nice things in Korea anymore? by superwoolu

superwoolu — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:55:05 +0000

I really don’t understand all the social stigma with being a “little” overweight or not looking perfect by bearing major resemblance to a barbie doll. To be honest, I think Korean women are gorgeous, but then the bf reminded me that all my references for these women are from television and that the majority of these women actually have had surgically enhanced features. HUM BUG! We shouldn’t have to put labels on people, such that if you’re over 100lbs, you’re fat. If you have a flat nose, and tiny eyes, you’re ugly. So what are you suppose to do if you meet every criterion as described above?! By having plastic surgery it doesn’t change the fact that you’re children are still going to have the same unfortunate genes =___=. But, my point is, I don’t think people should feel that a flat nose or tiny eyes should automatically be deemed as “ugly”.

I know there is pressure to conform to what society wants, but if one cannot love what they are born with, they’ll make themselves vulnerable and a easy target for others to manipulating into thinking they are worth nothing. Also, when has being thin/pretty become a cultural norm in Korea… (actually I take that back since I’m guessing probably more than 50% of the people in Korea probably don’t look like what they should….). I love and embrace being asian, but I am weary that females and males in Asia are influenced to think that what they originally had is not good enough.

Comment on Do they ever say nice things in Korea anymore? by Solbee

Solbee — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:34:00 +0000

Ann, being called “ugly” is almost an endearment because I know they don’t mean it. Traditionally, Koreans always gave derogatory names to precious children because they thought if they called them with too-good names, devils would get jealous and take the child away from them. That’s why names like dog-poo were common in ancient times. No one certainly names his child “dog-poo” nowadays, but the concept of it still lives on in the culture.

Frankly, I really don’t think it’s that bad in Korea. It does seem like people are getting shallower, but not to the point that people will call you flat-out ugly. People aren’t going to judge you just because you don’t have huge eyes and S-line body. Not everyone there is super skinny, and not everyone is so obsessed with looks either. Everyone here seems like they had bad experiences in Korea, but… that definitely isn’t the only side of Korea. Oh, and monolids are actually becoming really popular, thanks to Yu-Na Kim! Hahaha.

Comment on Do they ever say nice things in Korea anymore? by Lucy

Lucy — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:22:23 +0000

I was writing a lengthy reply when my damn browser crashed. Damn you, Safari! Probably a good thing, or you would’ve had to read a novel.

I guess what I want to say is that perhaps the problem with Asians, especially Koreans, is that we are expected to feel SHAME. Nobody explains it to you, but you just know that you should feel ashamed. Maybe that’s why we constantly belittle each other. To this day, I can’t accept a compliment (if I accept it at all) without cringing. I wonder when I’ll ever feel comfortable with myself.

And I guess the really f***ed up thing is, as I’m writing this reply, I’m recovering from eyelid surgery. I haven’t spoken to my parents in years, but I still carry a sense of guilt, shame, and self-hatred with me. Sometimes I want to call my mom, but I know every conversation would end with something ridiculous like “don’t go to the bathroom by yourself in public,” because if I did, I would surely get kidnapped or something horrible. I know you can relate to such controlling ways. I thought I could live my life the way I wanted if I cut off ties with them but I think they still control me somehow. I know my post sounds like it’s written by a 13-year-old, but I’m actually 25. And I don’t know how you found the courage to put your foot down with your mom, but I respect your for that.

It helps to read your posts and everyone’s replies. So Alienman, I love you. And please don’t ever stop writing.

Comment on Life in Portland, as of this first week of March. by Carol

Carol — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:48:38 +0000

Awww, I like that picture of you and Bella snuggling in bed.

I know you’ve mentioned food stands before, but I had no idea they were literally food stands. I could never find anything like that here in ATL. Is there any particular food that’s special to Portland? I saw that Thai food stand and itt’s really got me craving green curry.

Comment on Do they ever say nice things in Korea anymore? by Olive

Olive — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:31:50 +0000

I think all of Asia in general have become really superficial over the years. I know for sure Japan is just like that as well, just looking through the magazine alone can tell you that artificial looking girls are the standard of beauty. I know that American society feeds us these images of super skinny glamazons, but I think it’s way worse in Japan. I haven’t been around very many Asians where I live, but the few girls I encounter who are actually from Japan are always painfully thin and they complain about how fat they are! Most of them are usually under 110 lbs…so then I begin to wonder what they think of my 145 lbs. body! I must be equivalent to Java the Hut over there lol…I know for a fact that they don’t even sell my size (8-9) in regualr Japanese clothing stores. It’s not only about weight, but this whole manufactured look that so many girls in Japan and the rest of Asia strive for is so disturbing. It’s like they’re all robotic dolls, everyone has to look a certain way to be accepted….so sad. I hope that I haven’t discouraged you, but I hope that you have a good time in Korea and who cares if anyone gives you shit! You know that you are much better than that and you are truly beautiful inside and outside and that’s a rare combination these days

Comment on Do they ever say nice things in Korea anymore? by Klaudea

Klaudea — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:00:26 +0000

I don’t think it’s just Korea, I would say Asia in general.

Being chinese born Canadian I was basically born into western society. I didn’t start feeling fat until I cracked open a Hong Kong magazine where the “before” photos are of girls at 115lbs!!

My friend told me in highschool that I should take the western “ideal” weight chart and minus about 15lbs to find the “ideal” weight for asians. I’ve overheard Hong Kong guys talking about how much thinner their girlfriends are than other guys. My cousins girlfriend was bulimic and my aunt used to be openly jealous of how they can throw up their food to stay skinny.

Nicole Richie would be considered obese according to Asian standards.

It’s harsh but just try to ignore it. WE THINK YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL and that is ALL THAT MATTERS!

Besides, how beautiful are the people who are going around calling other people fat?
Stupid.